I was going through my photos the other day and came across this one, I remember feeling really happy, confident and so supported and loved by my hubby that day.
We had just finished a photo shoot on a modelling holiday that I had booked to get some great photos for my biz, a week in Marbella, bliss! He had come along intending to chill at the pool and not really get involved. Things changed when we were given the opportunity to head to the hills and do a joint shoot.
So off we went and we ended up having fun and getting some great shots in the end. Anyway, this photo captured exactly how I felt that day.
This is a message to partners who think they are being supportive …
The question is are you really?
When a potential client approaches me asking for help and we get to the point where we are a good fit and I know I can help her get results and we move on to talking about how it works, we design a plan to move things forward and we talk about the investment required. One of the main objections we need to overcome is the financial commitment the program requires, not with the client but with her other 1/2, we all need a sounding board and time to think things through, I get it.
Having invested heavily in myself over the last 4 years, I understand what this process feels like so this post is really in support of ladies looking to invest in themselves who need to run it past a partner and discuss the financial implications.
Sadly there are always one or two who are desperate to get the support they need, while they face the changes they are experiencing. And they are talked out of it simply because their partner doesn’t get how important this process is.
So this post is really for your partner … use it as a tool to help you discuss it and find the value in it together and then make the decision that is right for you.
Hopefully, this will help you find reasons why you should do a program like this, and why it is so important, rather than focus on the reasons not to do it.
This goes further than finding the money but we will start there …
Allowing her to get ahead will really help her build her confidence, she has a unique opportunity now to find herself again and to be the best version of herself she can be.
That sexy, sassy woman you fell in love with will be back with so much more to give, loads of energy and a quality about her that you’ll love and admire.
So while you consider the investment, start by adding up how much money you spend on booze every week? Or cake? Or lunches out? Or coffee from your fav coffee shop …
Ever considered that you always find money for these things? plus the latest iPhone, new trainers, designer briefcase or wallet … a new suit or pair of shoes for work … a new bicycle …
Very often we don’t even bat an eyelid spending the money here …
Does this mean that these things are more valuable to you than your health or the health of your partner?
Hell NO! Its just a matter of priority and yes I get it, very few of us have an unlimited pot to draw from … and here’s the rub …
Maybe you don’t feel the need to invest in your own health and therefore can’t get your head around why she needs to do this for herself.
Maybe when you look at yourself in the mirror you still feel good, when she looks at herself all she sees is the person she’s become and longs to get her body back, her energy back and not feel quite so drained and unhealthy all the time. Just to fit into her clothing would be a bonus and to be able to go shopping without worrying about her size.
Maybe you are motivated enough to get to the gym and able to keep your weight under control, maybe you find it easy to switch off from everything that interrupts your focus on a day to day basis.
The truth is at the moment she can’t … its the way we are wired.
We are nurturers, caregivers and more often than not this drive comes at the expense of her health, fitness and wellbeing and while she won’t be able or willing to articulate it or may not even be aware of the impact this is having on her overall satisfaction with life there will come a time, maybe that time is now, where it all comes into focus and needs to be addressed and guess what, she needs your support to do it!
So this is really about how she feels about herself … her world and where she fits in it. Her dreams and the perfect life she is creating for herself and her family, yes that’s you.
When we face change we are presented with a unique opportunity to review our lives, to figure out what’s working and what’s not working. To shift from where we are to where we want to be. The most effective way to do this is with the help of someone who has been there and done it, someone who has experienced it all and can help and support in a unique way, a way filled with the wisdom that comes from experience.
Think about this for a minute …
In the last 48 hours what have, you said these 3 words about … ??
I (we) can’t afford … > food? > the mortgage? > a beer or a glass of wine at the pub? > a new car? > joining a gym? > a meal out at a fancy restaurant? > an appointment with a massage therapist? > another holiday?
Now before you dismiss her and say NO to the program that will fundamentally change her life and improve how she feels about you and how supportive you are …
Think about where you place the most value?
Is it in “things” or in health?
How often do we talk ourselves out of doing the things we want to do based on someone else’s view or value system? do you think you are doing this to her right now?
Sadly ladies … we are guilty of allowing this to happen! Guilty of being talked out of doing something we need to do and not being assertive enough or value ourselves enough to use the resources available to commit to the process and actually take the step needed to progress. This is your first hurdle, one of many you will face over the course of the program. The exciting bit is realising that this is where we begin …
Looking back, I have yet to meet a partner who would say NO gorgeous person, whom I love and cherish, I don’t want you to invest in yourself, especially if that investment means that you get your confidence back, get your sexy back, and ultimately means that I find the woman I met all that time ago and get HER back in the room … Va Va Voom …
Truth is … you will never get better at something or truly progress until you invest at the right level … only you know what that high-level commitment means to you.
It’s got to be a high-level commitment to effectively motivate and drive real long term long lasting lifestyle change.
This is ultimately about value, it’s about priority and it is about how highly YOU or your partner features in that thought process …
So the big question is: Do you value the important things?
OR do you value the things that make you feel important?
So after reading all of that if you want to find out more about how you can help your beautiful partner feel amazing about herself, get her body back and find herself again then feel free to contact me for a chat CLICK HERE…
Colette PS: The truth is she is BAD at taking action without your support!